What BPD Is and What It Is Not
Yvonne Judge explains borderline personality disorder (BPD), its symptoms, statistics, stigma, relationship effects, and common misconceptions.
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Where Can I Find Neuroaffirming Couple Therapy in Columbus, Ohio?
Written by Yvonne Judge 8-23-2026 TL; DR: Neuroaffirming couple therapy starts from how your two brains are built, and how those mental patterns can best work together, not from a “communic…
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Emotionally Focused Therapy vs Emotional Freedom Technique: Key Differences
Written by Yvonne Judge 8-17-2026 TL;DR: Emotionally Focused Therapy is a structured therapy approach for couples, individuals, and families. It targets attachment bonds and relationship pa…
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Premarital Counseling in Columbus, Ohio: Prepare for Marriage or Moving In Together
Premarital counseling helps engaged couples and couples moving in together discuss money, kids, chores, and expectations before commitment gets harder.
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Individual vs. Couples Therapy: What Reddit Gets Right, and What It Misses
Confused by Reddit advice? Learn when individual therapy, couples therapy, or coordinated care fits best, and when to start with a consult.
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Research on EMDR Therapy Effectiveness, Benefits, and Limits
How effective is EMDR therapy? Review the research on PTSD, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain, plus the limits of current evidence.
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Couples Counseling vs. Coaching: Which One Do You Need?
Not sure whether counseling or coaching is the better fit? Learn the key differences, signs to watch for, and how to choose the right support.
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Beyond Words: How EFT Couples Therapy Uses Body Language to Reach Deeper Emotions
Written by Yvonne Judge Updated: 8-17-2026 TL;DR: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy does not just listen to what partners say. It also pays attention to body cues like posture, breathing,…
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Best Therapy for Couples Communication Problems: Gottman, EFT, EMDR, or DBT?
Written by Yvonne Judge Updated: 8-17-2026 TL;DR: The best therapy for couples communication problems depends on what is driving the conflict. Gottman Method helps with structure and repair…
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Marriage Counseling in Columbus, Ohio | Revitalize You
Marriage counseling in Columbus, Ohio for couples facing conflict, infidelity, communication issues, intimacy concerns, and major relationship decisions.
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What is suggestibility testing in hypnosis?
TL;DR: Suggestibility testing helps identify how a person responds best to hypnotic suggestions. Some people respond better to direct, literal language, while others respond better to indir…
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Is Online Therapy in Ohio Right for You?
Written by Yvonne Judge Updated: 8-17-2026 TL;DR: Online therapy in Ohio can work well if you have privacy, reliable internet, and concerns that can be treated safely through video sessions…
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The Specialist Model in Trauma Treatment: Why EMDR Works Best Alongside Your Existing Therapy, Not Instead of It
Written by Yvonne Judge Updated: 8-17-2026 TL;DR: This page explains why EMDR is often most effective when integrated with other therapeutic models, why some clients plateau in therapy, and…
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When Couple Therapy Doesn’t Heal The Affair
TL;DR: If couples therapy has not helped after an affair, the problem may not be effort. It may be that the betrayal created a trauma response that communication work alone cannot resolve.…
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Trauma Ping Pong – Why Some Couples Fight
TL;DR: Trauma ping pong happens when one partner’s reaction triggers the other partner’s nervous system, and the fight spirals beyond the original issue. These arguments are not usually abo…
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The Real Reason Couples Therapy Stalls
TL;DR: Couples therapy often stalls when the work focuses only on communication while missing the deeper emotional, trauma, or nervous system patterns underneath the conflict. If a couple k…
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How Long Should Therapy Actually Take?
TL;DR: Many people wonder how long therapy should take. The answer depends on your goals, symptoms, and progress, but therapy should help you notice meaningful change over time. This articl…
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What Bad EMDR Looks Like and Why It Failed You
What Bad EMDR Looks Like and Why It Failed You EMDR didn’t work for you. Before you write it off, read this. If you tried EMDR and left sessions feeling more upset than when you came in, if…
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Why Therapy Hasn’t Worked for You
Why Therapy Hasn’t Worked for You You showed up. You did the work. You told your story. You completed the worksheets. You came back week after week. And nothing changed. At least not for th…
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Your Trauma is Not Treatment-Resistant
Your Trauma is Not Treatment-Resistant. You Just Haven’t Had the Right Treatment. TL;DR: This article explains why trauma is often misdiagnosed, why the right treatment approach matters,…
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Look At Our New Feature!
Yvonne Judge of Revitalize You was recently quoted in an article by ApartmentGuide. As Yvonne does quite a bit of pre-marital and pre-cohabitation counseling work with clients, she talked w…
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Mental Body Scan Meditation: Free Guided Audio
Below I give you a description of the body scan, why you should use it. And links to audio files to of guided Mental Body Scans in English (male and female voice) and Spanish (female voice)…
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Gottman Sound Relationship House Guide
TL;DR: Many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy relationship. This guide explains the Gottman Sound Relationship House and how it can help you strengthen your partnership Key Highli…
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Understanding the Gottman 4 Horsemen
Key Highlights Gottman’s Four Horsemen are communication patterns that predict relationship issues. The Four Horsemen are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Recognizing t…
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My girlfriend is always criticizing me…
What is criticism? TL;DR: Criticism in relationships often sounds like “you always” or “you never,” and it can damage trust over time. This article explains the difference between criticism…
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What is an emotional affair?
TL;DR: An emotional affair happens when a close emotional connection outside the relationship begins to replace the intimacy, honesty, or emotional priority that belongs inside the partners…
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My wife’s friend is trying to get her to leave me. what do I do?
TL;DR: When a spouse’s friend encourages separation or interferes in your marriage, focus on calm communication, not blame. Talk with your partner directly, set healthy boundaries around ou…
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Gaslight examples – how to know I’m being gaslighted and what to do about it
TL;DR: Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation that makes you doubt your memory, reality, or judgment. Warning signs include repeated denial, blame-shifting, twisting the truth, and…
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How do I get my mom to be nicer to my wife when she constantly criticizes her and calls her a bad mother even though my wife is a great mom and is polite to my mother?
TL;DR: If your mother criticizes your wife, the key is for you to set clear boundaries with your mom and support your spouse first. Talk with your partner about the specific behavior, then…
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What are boundaries and how do I set boundaries in relationships?
TL;DR: This article explains what boundaries are, why they matter, signs of poor boundaries, examples of healthy boundaries, and practical ways to set boundaries in relationships. What is a…
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Top 10 Ohio Getaways for Couples
Top 10 Ohio Getaways for Couples TL;DR: This guide covers the benefits of romantic getaways, top 10 getaway locations in Ohio, and alternative tips for couples to reconnect without travelin…
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How do I get my partner to put me first?
TL;DR This guide offers 8 strategies to help you encourage your partner to prioritize you, including effective communication, setting expectations, and seeking couples therapy. As an expe…
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How to end your unhealthy relationship
TL;DR If you are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship, it can be hard to leave because of fear, guilt, attachment, children, or promises that things will change. This guide explains common…
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Can you save a relationship that drifted apart?
TL;DR: Relationships can drift apart when couples stop prioritizing quality time, communication, affection, and shared goals. Reconnection is possible by intentionally making time for each…
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How to fix a sexless marriage
TL;DR: This article discusses identifying a sexless marriage, reasons for lack of intimacy, and actionable steps to revive sexual connection. If you’re reading this you’re either in a relat…
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8 Unique dates for couples in Columbus, Ohio
TL;DR: Looking for unique date ideas in Columbus, Ohio? Try something memorable together, like couples cryotherapy, a glass art class at Glass Axis, a Columbus food tour, Franklinton Friday…
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I don’t feel loved anymore what do I do?
TL;DR: Feeling unloved in a relationship can come from communication breakdowns, unmet emotional needs, or stress. This article explains how to talk about what you need and recognize when o…
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LGBTQ+ Friendly Therapy in Ohio
Image from Pixabay LGBTQ Therapist Columbus, Ohio While Columbus, Oh is a bigger city, we are still also considered part of the Midwest. This means it can be more difficult to find an LGBTQ…
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Motivation to Change Makes Therapy Work
TL;DR: Therapy can feel stuck when someone wants things to improve but is not fully motivated or ready to change. Motivation helps therapy work because it supports honesty, effort, follow-t…
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Christian counseling in Ohio
A few questions clients often ask are: How do I find a Christian counselor near me? Are there therapists that will let me bring Jesus into therapy in Columbus? What does one do in this type…
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20 Communication Exercises for Couples
Written by Yvonne Judge 8-16-2022. Updated 8/23/2026 TL;DR: This guide covers 20 communication exercises for couples to practice at home, organized into listening, speaking, conversation, b…
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Should We Get Married When We’re Fighting?
TL;DR: This article explains why getting married while fighting usually makes conflict worse, and why it is better to resolve core issues first. It recommends premarital counseling to help…
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Where to Get Couples Counseling: Finding Effective, Evidence-Based Treatment
Wondering where to find couples counseling that actually works? If you are having difficulty communicating with your partner or find yourselves constantly arguing, you may benefit from coup…
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Delayed Ejaculation Statistics Infographic
Delayed Ejaculation Statistics Infographic Contents TL;DR: Delayed ejaculation affects 1% of men but can severely impact those who have it. This infographic covers prevalence rates, situati…
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Do I have delayed ejaculation? how to get help?
TL;DR: This article covers the definition of delayed ejaculation, its causes, diagnosis criteria, and available treatments including medical and therapy options. What is Delayed Ejaculation…
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Learn Self Hypnosis in 10 Easy Steps
Written by Yvonne Judge 1-17-2021. Updated 8/23/2026 TL;DR: You can learn self-hypnosis at home in 10 steps: get comfortable, focus your gaze, relax deeply, give yourself positive suggestio…
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Triangulation in Relationships: Signs and Help
TL;DR: Triangulation happens when a third person gets pulled into a conflict instead of the two people involved addressing the issue directly. It may feel safer in the moment, but it usuall…
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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Explained
Love is important, Sternberg’s theory of love explained. TL;DR: This article explains Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, detailing its three components, intimacy, passion, and commitmen…
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Should We Keep Secrets in Couples Counseling
Should your therapist keep your secrets from your partner? TL;DR: This article explains the ethics of keeping secrets in couples counseling, what types of secrets therapists may or may not…
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