How do I get my mom to be nicer to my wife when she constantly criticizes her and calls her a bad mother even though my wife is a great mom and is polite to my mother?

One of the things I get asked for as an experienced marriage and family therapist, is advice on specific topics. Many times, couples come to therapy with mother in law issues. These issues with a spouse’s mom can cause a couple to fight. It can also be an example of triangulation in the relationship. Let’s…